{"id":6558,"date":"2018-04-30T10:56:53","date_gmt":"2018-04-30T16:56:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sites.coloradocollege.edu\/careercenter\/?p=6558"},"modified":"2018-04-30T10:56:53","modified_gmt":"2018-04-30T16:56:53","slug":"how-to-overcome-social-anxiety-while-networking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.coloradocollege.edu\/careercenter\/how-to-overcome-social-anxiety-while-networking\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Overcome Social Anxiety while Networking"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We get it &#8211; networking can be nerve-wracking. How do you break into a conversation between total strangers? What do you talk about? How is this supposed to be useful, anyway?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellandgood.com\/about-wg\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Well+Good<\/a>, a healthy lifestyle resource, has tips and tricks from clinical psychologist Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. for those who get sweaty palms even thinking about networking.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>[Dr. Hendriksen] offers a general piece of advice that can be applied whenever your anxiety rears its head: Focus on your surroundings. \u201cWhen we\u2019re in a socially anxious moment, usually our attention starts turning inward and we monitor ourselves, trying to figure out how we\u2019re coming across,\u201d she explains. (Cue annoying thoughts like,\u00a0<em>Does it look more natural if I put my hands in my pockets?<\/em>) \u201cTo remedy this, we should turn our attention to what is happening outside [of ourselves], listening closely to what the other person is saying,\u201d Dr. Hendriksen says.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;At a cocktail party or networking event,\u00a0Dr. Hendriksen\u2019s pro tip: Go in with a plan. According to one study, she says, when socially anxious people were given a task\u2014getting to know as many people as they could in five minutes\u2014they were actually just as socially competent as women who were overly extroverted. But when they were unknowingly evaluated on how good they were at small talk with strangers without given a task, they didn\u2019t do so hot.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou can tell yourself, \u2018I\u2019m going to talk to five people tonight,\u2019 or \u2018I\u2019m going to get to know two people tonight,&#8217;\u201d Dr. Hendriksen recommends. That way, you head into the situation with an agenda and a goal\u2014not just a looming cloud of self-doubt.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Want to learn how to tackle more social scenarios? 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