On January 22, 2016, ITS: gathered once again for TED O’clock, this time watching Margaret Heffernan’s talk, “Dare to Disagree.” Here were some of the comments from the discussion that followed:
1) We need to become more afraid of silence than conflict.
2) Creating an open, safe environment is just the beginning.
3) People that disagree well see conflict as thinking.
4) You need to be prepared to change your mind in a meeting; you can’t just go into it planning only to defend your position.
5) We need to learn to appreciate the risk takers among us.
6) There is productive and unproductive conflict.
7) Debriefing after a conflict can help.
8) We need to work on separating the argument from the person.
9) Many people often take conflict personally.
10) Meetings can be better with conflict.
11) It is difficult to be in meetings with people that create conflict just to create conflict. It is hard in those meetings to know what to say and not be considered insubordinate.
12) Excel@CC’s “The Great Communicator” class talks about conflict, so would be a good resource for those looking for more information. I have a copy of Shari Harley’s book, How to Say Anything to Anyone, on order to arrive later this week (she is the facilitator of “The Great Communicator” class).
Please let me know if I missed any comment, suggestion, or question.
Also, please let me know if you have a TED talk that should be featured with TED O’clock. We can add it to the list and you can lead the discussion! This isn’t just my thing…this is for everyone in ITS:! Please help to make this a great half hour once a block for everyone!
ITS:Always fun, never boring
Respectfully submitted,
Linda Petro
