Breaking up is hard to do. Especially when “breaking up” means declining a job offer that you’ve worked really hard to get. You know who it’s even harder on? The recruiter. I can still feel that rush of anxiety I felt every time someone I was really excited about turned me down.
That being said, sometimes after receiving that exciting phone call, it becomes clear that it’s just not right for you. And because it’s taken a handful of interviews, thank you notes, and the sincerest “I-am-really-intrigued-by-what-you’re-working-on” statements, it often feels like you’ve already started building relationships with the people you’ve met with. So, when it comes time to decline an offer, it can be easy to overthink it.